I find myself so many times these days simply giving thanks to God for laughter. Lying awake in bed at 3am, afraid that I will wake my wife because I’m shaking the bed with laughter because a funny thought from a funny moment earlier in the evening just keeps returning to my mind. A knee-slapping, laughing until the danger of vomitting becomes real, people coming from the next room to see what’s going on type of moment. A moment I shared with my youngest son in this case. A memory made (a clean one too). Wouldn’t it be great if we could fill our days and those of our children with memories of uncontrollable laughter?
Life is an inside joke.
When we fail to share laughter with others, we miss out on the joke. We don’t get it. When we spend a lifetime laughing, the same jokes continue to make us laugh, time after time. Little things that have no meaning or humor to others trigger a smile or a laugh with you and your partners in joy. Sharing experiences with our children. Who are they building a wealth of inside jokes with? Or more importantly, who are you (specifically dads!) sharing yours with? Golfing buddies, co-workers, male friends in general? Laughing at crude, adult humor that you wouldn’t find so funny in the presence of your kids? Seems harmless….I guess. But what’s wrong with trying to start an example of purity in yourself that you surely hope to see displayed by and around your kids. Man up. Grow up. Clean it up. Look for opportunities to find humor in life WITH your kids.
Start building a lifetime of laughter and “trigger memories” with your kids (inside jokes). You will GET IT tomorrow, because you were all there together sharing in it today. Share your life with your kids. If you wouldn’t say it, do it, or watch it when they are around……you get the point.
Search for things in life you can do with your kids, experiences that can be shared……laughed at….remembered……and laughed at again, over and over. I don’t particularly want my kids to be goofy. But I sure hope they always know how to act goofy. And I hope they see their dad doing it plenty. I’m ok with raising a comedian. I just don’t want them to think they need to sound like Richard Pryor or Andrew Dice Clay to get a laugh.
A little unicorn Thanksgiving humor always works. I don’t really “get it”, but I’m sure everybody else in our family does. And I’m sure we’ll all continue to get laughs from it years down the road.
Enter their world. Let them into yours. Share the laughter.
3 thoughts on “Life Is An Inside Joke”
I really enjoyed reading this and your take on humour. I’m not really religious myself (although I did go to Quakers for a while as a kid and have been a few times as an adult) but certainly agree that there’s no real need to use bad language in order to be funny. Indeed, bad language often doesn’t really add that much to jokes. I think it’s well crated jokes that make people laugh and there are a lot of people out there who have real skill at creating these sorts of jokes.
Thanks. I’ve been guilty if of being on two different “wrong” sides of the spectrum 1) being too serious and not enjoying life with my kids & 2) getting too many laughs of the crude, mindless nature or at the expense if others.
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